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Around Suannan / Colombian non-binary relations
« เมื่อ: มิถุนายน 27, 2025, 01:45:48 am »
It's near midnight in my Cali home office, and I'm nursing a cup of coffee as bold and dark as my thoughts. Quite a typical scene for me, a ardent relationship coach from Colombia, who has spent half a century plus one year precisely, nurturing the intricate art of love, connection, and the labyrinth of human emotions. Control and mystery - these two sovereigns stand on either side of this spectrum, and as I contemplate, they turn the pages of my musings tonight.
Control, ah control. It's a safe place, isn't it? We all crave for it, not just in relationships but in every shred of our existence. But in relationships, it can often be a guise, a shelter from vulnerability, a steel barrier against the unpredictability of our partner's thoughts, wishes, and desires. We like to navigate the sea of intimacy with a compass in our hands, because it assures us, gives us a sense of direction. But remember, in the comfort of control we often run the risk of suffocating spontaneity, of dulling the senses that stitch you closer, that make you dive deeper into the soul of your partner...into your own soul.
And here enters the mystery, like an elusive ghost in a tale from the shadows of the past. Some are terrified of it, while others, they dance with it. They caress the unknown with a gentle fondness, take pleasure in loss of predictability. It's an element of surprise that keeps the curiosity alive, the small discoveries about your partner that make you smile at 3am, the epiphanies about yourself that leave you astounded.
But, a word of caution. Just as control can strangle, mystery can disorient. It can lead you into the darkness, rob you of understanding, strip the foundation of trust. Balance, my dear friends, that's the key, the hidden elixir. Balance the need for control and the allure of mystery. Foster an environment where you can explore now, this present heartbeat, and at the same time, embrace the uncertainty of the next.
In all my years, I've learned that the dance of love is graceful when control and mystery waltz together, operating in complete harmony. Where control doesn't overpower but gently guides, and mystery doesn't bewilder but pleasantly surprises. It's an intricate dance, but oh, the rhythm it creates, the music it plays - exquisite and unparalleled.
As I drain my cup, the deep hue of the nighttime sky mirrors my thoughts, and I sigh with a sense of comfort. My reflections on control and mystery conclude, but somewhere in the quiet, the dance continues, and it will, as long as there are hearts yearning to understand this complex yet beautiful sculpture we call 'relationship.' Glancing at the clock, I sigh again, softer this time, and think to myself, 'Oh, what a wondrous, paradoxical world of love we live in.'
Control, ah control. It's a safe place, isn't it? We all crave for it, not just in relationships but in every shred of our existence. But in relationships, it can often be a guise, a shelter from vulnerability, a steel barrier against the unpredictability of our partner's thoughts, wishes, and desires. We like to navigate the sea of intimacy with a compass in our hands, because it assures us, gives us a sense of direction. But remember, in the comfort of control we often run the risk of suffocating spontaneity, of dulling the senses that stitch you closer, that make you dive deeper into the soul of your partner...into your own soul.
And here enters the mystery, like an elusive ghost in a tale from the shadows of the past. Some are terrified of it, while others, they dance with it. They caress the unknown with a gentle fondness, take pleasure in loss of predictability. It's an element of surprise that keeps the curiosity alive, the small discoveries about your partner that make you smile at 3am, the epiphanies about yourself that leave you astounded.
But, a word of caution. Just as control can strangle, mystery can disorient. It can lead you into the darkness, rob you of understanding, strip the foundation of trust. Balance, my dear friends, that's the key, the hidden elixir. Balance the need for control and the allure of mystery. Foster an environment where you can explore now, this present heartbeat, and at the same time, embrace the uncertainty of the next.
In all my years, I've learned that the dance of love is graceful when control and mystery waltz together, operating in complete harmony. Where control doesn't overpower but gently guides, and mystery doesn't bewilder but pleasantly surprises. It's an intricate dance, but oh, the rhythm it creates, the music it plays - exquisite and unparalleled.
As I drain my cup, the deep hue of the nighttime sky mirrors my thoughts, and I sigh with a sense of comfort. My reflections on control and mystery conclude, but somewhere in the quiet, the dance continues, and it will, as long as there are hearts yearning to understand this complex yet beautiful sculpture we call 'relationship.' Glancing at the clock, I sigh again, softer this time, and think to myself, 'Oh, what a wondrous, paradoxical world of love we live in.'